I am no longer a self loathing Facebook user.

The very first post I made on this blog was entitled I am a self loathing Facebook user. I was ranting at the time about people using Facebook as a rallying place for bringing attention to causes they were interested in, and arguing that people should spend less time clicking in agreement and actually take some positive action. My opinion of Facebook hasn’t improved in the almost two years since I wrote that post, if anything I’ve come to despise it and it’s ability to allow halfwits to organise en masse even more.

I have rarely logged on to Face book over the past year, it’s only been to respond to messages or friend requests from some long forgotten school friend. On the rare occasions that I did log on, my time was almost entirely spent blocking new stupid applications that people thought I should be using. While I admit that I have in the past seriously discussed piracy as a great retirement plan, I have no desire to join online mafia clans, decide between vampirism or lycanism or even pick which side of the force I want to represent.

So with all that in mind, last week I decided to go one step further than ignoring facebook and I actually disabled my account. With that, I have left behind all of the people who I cajoled, coerced and conned into using Facebook back when it was the new big thing. They would undoubtedly all have started at some point, but thanks to my early adopter zeal it was me who gave them the nudge. Sorry guys, I was wrong. I think Facebook is shit.

After the initial buzz of reconnecting with all of my old ‘friends’ it became apparent that I didn’t really want to keep in touch with them, which was why I’d barely spoken to any of them since finishing high school fifteen years ago. As for the friends I do have, and want to keep in touch with, it didn’t take too long for me to realise that Facebook is a fairly shithouse way to do so. We all have mobiles, landlines, personal and work email addresses and more recently some of us even use twitter, all of which seem much better than logging onto a website that wants to bombard you with ads for crap, which has multiple, incompatible methods of communicating with each other and which changes its design and functionality on a whim.

I don’t think that Facebook will be the last thing that I dive head first into as an early adopter, only to become disillusioned and ditch later, but I’m glad that I’ve given it the flick properly, rather than letting it float along on the periphery.

Admittedly, having left the Facebook universe, I can no longer claim to be friends with Lawrence Sprinborg, random people from uni who I barely remember,  or some of the people who made high school a misery, but on reflection that’s probably a very good thing.

11 thoughts on “I am no longer a self loathing Facebook user.

  1. Mrsdave is mostly in agreement, but still likes the ubiquitous Facebook chat client. She’s on a self imposed time limit to cut back on Facebook usage though. The less Mrsdave sees Facebook groups, the happier our whole family is. If you think Wah was pissed off at the “Bring back Hey, Hey” group, you should have seen my beloved.

  2. I’ve been thinking of flicking my facebook site for a while. Totally concur with what you’ve said.
    No more is the difference, between Twitter & Facebook, to me more evident than when you use apps like ‘TweetDeck’ which can put up live feeds from both, side by side. Like watching World Championship Female High Jumpers, a mixture of attraction and revulsion washes over me.

  3. I still like Facebook. A few well-chosen applications to waste time on (severely shut down (god willing) so that notifications from it don’t bother others), a number of friends filters so that the people I just want to keep an eye on can’t see anything I do, and the installation of a FB Purity Greasemonkey script thingy has made the whole thing into the best tool every for upkeeping my friendships.

    Sure, there’s a bucketload of people there (ex-exchange year, ex-high school, ex-university plus a few randoms) who just make up numbers on my friends list, but Fbook is quite possibly one of the most perfect ways ever for me to keep up with events in the lives of my Indo family (all of them!), to keep in touch with a friend in Perth, and another in Wellington, as well as dribbling me enough information about what my family are currently doing to make me able to not appear ignorant at family gatherings.

    etc etc etc… Truly – I love fbook – it’s made me more social.

  4. Ray, Facebook and twitter are very different beasts.

    100flowers, I spent some time trying to make Facebook behave better, but I quickly came to the conclusion that if I needed to regularly ‘fix’ Facebook, then it wasn’t worth the time.

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